Emotionally focused therapy

Emotionally focused therapy helps people recognise, understand and work with the emotions that influence their choices and relationships. It views emotions as meaningful signals that can become difficult when they are avoided, overwhelming or shaped by painful experiences. Therapy supports safer emotional expression and more secure ways of relating, for individuals or couples.

What sessions may involve

Slowing down emotional moments, identifying attachment needs and practising new ways of responding in close relationships.

What it may suit

May suit individuals or couples wanting to understand cycles of distance, conflict or emotional disconnection.

Delivery and fit

For couples, both people need a chance to participate safely. The therapist should discuss suitability where there is fear, coercion or abuse.

Evidence and uncertainty

There is research for emotionally focused work, particularly with couples, though outcomes vary and safety assessment is essential.

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